These Life perspectives are based on the teachings of life experienced charitable business teachers, who have taught throughout the ages, and who live amongst us today, with love and commitment as servants of Life.
The objective is to grow manageable, ethical, self-sustainable, generous business minded lives.
A perfect True living teacher, is connected to the Creative Positive Power or Holy Spirit or God as we understand it, that creates and leads Life. True living teachers do not charge for their service, nor seek for followers, neither advertise, except to explain services, neither tell people what to do, neither gets involved in the private lives of others.
They are interested in bringing their love, sympathy, understanding, support and cooperation, with joy, freedom, beauty and balance to the world so others can learn to do the same.
The teacher, Spirit, in human form, directs the mind to influence the world and make it a better place, with creative, positive choices to enjoy Life.
The focus is to meet needs in own community, from where settled, to grow unity and agreement, without worry, without doubt or fear, without anger, greed, attachment, ego, pride, without causing debts, family disintegration, social ills or poverty.
The True teacher has own mind, body and emotions to manage, to improve Life experiences, whilst operating within the spiritual, universal, natural and local laws, the greatest law above all else is Love, to Be That.
The teachings are for those who are interested, so they can learn to share feelings, stories, needs and ideas, to spread the message as guidance and support to the world they live in.
⦁ Life is Spirit. energy, light, sound, wisdom, love, awareness, found within creation, which guides, protects, provides, nurtures and directs, the Individual through feelings in the central nervous system of the body. Then comes thought in the mind, and actions follow through the senses in the body, for Good Will, to create decisions, for the benefit of All in own community and country born into.
⦁ Love is shown by feeling of happiness, enthusiasm, peace, serenity, which comes come from actions that show 100 % responsibility, in accepting giving and receiving, respect, vulnerability, openness, honesty, affections and reduced fear. Love results in feelings of pleasure, security, trust, care and faith in own capabilities, which come from being attached to the creative positive power of Life.
⦁ Home is a peaceful place found within creation where One lives, works and travels freely from, is above all else, the place to manifest the outer Life in form of love, joy, beauty, freedom and balance.
⦁ Life’s purpose is to know the Creative power of own feelings, thoughts, actions, to express love, sympathy, understanding, support and cooperation from a peaceful place found within.
⦁ Feelings of anger causes frustration, sadness, disappointment and concerns, greed, attachment to worldly things and vanity/ego is caused from going against the Creative positive power.
⦁ That which is self-controlled, self-disciplined, self-forgiving, self-tolerant, self-content, self-discriminating, is detached from forms in Life and is attached to the formless called Life unmanifested, which is who you are.
12 STEPS TO MANAGE EMOTIONS, MIND AND ACTIONS TO BE AT PEACE, CONTENT, DOING WHAT IS NEEDED
1. I admit I am powerless over my life, living with addictive behaviours, and those who are not interested in working, or who are co-dependent in relationship, that our lives are becoming unmanageable.
SOLUTION
⦁ Do not let the criticism of others around me or about the people I love affect me.
⦁ Let go of stress and blame.
⦁ Do not control others doing their own thing.
⦁ Set boundaries with those who are without consideration of my needs equally.
⦁ Have authority over my own life, not over the lives of others.
⦁ Nothing can hurt me whilst I lean on my own Creative power to deal with all my problems and to show me the way.
⦁ Avoid making justifications for my actions.
⦁ Do not fall into punishment to relieve the addict or my guilt.
⦁ Do not to scold and weep.
⦁ Do for my own benefit.
⦁ Meditate before I say or do anything.
⦁ Let go of problems that destroy my peace of mind.
⦁ Meditate for detachment from the situation not from the addict or co-dependent.
⦁ Express love and compassion.
⦁ Accept the things I cannot change and have the courage to change the things I can change.
⦁ Share experiences to open up new and better ways of handling difficulties.
⦁ Accept myself so I can accept others.
⦁ Have no regrets about the past, but learn from mistakes and build a better life from past experiences.
⦁ Do not create my own difficulties.
⦁ Detach from hurt, by owning own mistakes, correct own self.
⦁ Do not take on responsibility for the mistakes of others nor correcting others.
⦁ Own my own pain from how I think and feel about life situations.
⦁ Do not suffer over the actions and reactions of others.
⦁ Learn from the actions and reactions of others to live a better life.
⦁ Improve the way I live my own life and the way I look at life.
⦁ Do not worry about the future.
⦁ Trust in Life.
⦁ Live in Spirit as own peace.
⦁ Have no interest in taking, but in giving and sharing.
⦁ Focus in Being selfless, wanting to share what I have received.
⦁ Do not exaggerate my unhappiness.
⦁ Smile.
⦁ Examine my ideas of enjoyment, pleasure and delight.
⦁ Set myself free from any situation that interferes with me from having a decent life and pleasant experiences.
⦁ Live without fear, uncertainty and discomfort.
⦁ Do not waver or doubt which prevents me from breaking out of my present thinking patterns.
⦁ Consider all, and be responsible for dislikes or resentments.
⦁ Do not accept everything life gives me, especially if it is humiliating and degrading.
⦁ Do not kill love and respect with the use of accusations, tears, strong voice, self-righteousness and nagging to influence others.
⦁ Grow love and respect with tolerance, patience, kindness, courtesy and humour.
⦁ Learn how to live at peace with myself and others.
⦁ Do not identify names in story sharing, to live with a faithful spirit.
⦁ Do not impulsively say something unkind against anyone which comes from my own guilt and unease.
⦁ Do not criticise others which affects unity, which I am dependant on.
⦁ Do not to be the victim of self-pity and resentment.
⦁ Do what I feel is right.
⦁ Evaluate my own actions and motives.
⦁ Live in line with my own standards and ideals.
⦁ Do what is given to me to do, to the best of my ability, which is my security from outer world battering.
⦁ Meditate for guidance.
⦁ Perfect myself with daily meditation and application.
⦁ Read to gain understanding.
⦁ Substitute positive for negative, patience for impatience, will for I won't.
⦁ Cultivate happy thoughts.
⦁ Seek out what is good and pleasing instead of focusing on criticizing.
⦁ Replace doubt and fears with faith and confidence.
⦁ Replace boredom with new ways of doing the same thing.
⦁ Serve others to fulfil myself.
⦁ Care for the addict or co-dependent who suffers guilt at the hurt he inflicts or for his neediness.
⦁ Be patient and compassionate without being a crutch so he can seek help for himself.
⦁ Let go and let Spirit, rely on help to get out of the pit.
⦁ Empty own mind of all fear.
⦁ Feel obliged to help others, without doing for others what they should do for themselves.
⦁ Do not deprive others of the challenge to meet their own responsibilities.
⦁ Be mutually dependent in marriage, without interfering when he gets into difficulties, not making up for them, nor criticizing.
⦁ Play my own role and leave his role to him.
⦁ Make happiness my own responsibility.
⦁ Meditate and be released from trying to control my situation.
⦁ Let go and let Spirit.
⦁ Turn my attention to finding ways to enjoy life by looking for the good.
⦁ Know I am powerless to solve others problems, I can only solve my own problems with the help of God.
2. Came to believe that Spirit can restore us to sanity – feeling, talking and trusting for ourselves.
⦁ Spirit stands up for the good in others.
⦁ Spirit manages stress by working positively and creatively with resistance.
⦁ Spirit grows cooperation with balance of actions by meeting needs together.
⦁ Spirit meets my needs and speaks up for what is needed where needs are not being met.
⦁ Spirit does not judge others rather directs life to meet needs.
⦁ Spirit opens the door to understanding and growth.
⦁ Depend on Spirit which is great and beyond anything I can understand.
⦁ Use Spirit to make my decisions.
⦁ Have confidence that whatever comes will be for my good.
⦁ Spirit brings order and meaning into my life and I am dependant on Spirit for everything.
⦁ Give my problems to Spirit without shirking my responsibilities.
⦁ Run my life with discernment, intelligent, good will, and the power to reason.
⦁ Do not turn discernment into resentment.
⦁ Do not turn intelligence into not facing my problems honestly.
⦁ Do not turn good into failure by focusing on the faults of others.
⦁ Do not turn the power to reason into attachment of emotional content of a problem.
⦁ Ask for help and do not expect easy solutions.
⦁ Play a part in solving my problems.
⦁ Spirit provides the guidance and strength to take the right action.
⦁ Meditate to understand my difficulties, clearly and honestly.
⦁ Meditate to clearly do something constructive about my difficulties.
⦁ Rely on Spirit for help.
⦁ Trials, problems are from within, the mind, not from Spirit, fate or world.
⦁ Examine own attitudes and activity, and face the fact of what I do or leave undone, find fault with own actions, and take action to make corrections.
⦁ Evaluate own problems that causes my own distress.
⦁ My job is to overcome my own shortcomings.
⦁ The Truth is within me, and my goodwill/intentions shall be revealed to me.
⦁ My weaknesses are a foundation for me to grow.
⦁ Use the good to overcome faults.
⦁ Focused on understanding myself first, that I don’t have time to criticize or analyse others.
⦁ Accept life is surrounded by troubles and challenges to face and overcome.
⦁ Draw my family close together by focusing on the blessings.
⦁ Troubles are opportunities to grow and make us better, not bitter.
⦁ Be grateful for the good things in my life especially the clarity of thinking that gives our family serenity and freedom to manage our own lives.
⦁ Share experience, strength and hope.
⦁ Meditate to face myself and change the course of my life for the better.
⦁ Learn from others to deal with my problems.
⦁ Resist exaggerating my troubles until they overwhelm me.
⦁ The suffering of others keeps me from condemning them.
⦁ Focus on myself so that I do not make my situation worse but better.
⦁ Practise to keep my lips shut and my ears open to give a new perspective on problems and for solutions to come more easily.
⦁ Constant talking deprives me of the help I am seeking.
⦁ Receive help by holding my peace and letting others talk.
⦁ Accept my need for help, and by listening I achieve serenity.
⦁ Conversation is to help another and myself think more clearly.
⦁ I am learning the use of Silence.
⦁ My mistakes contribute to the destruction of my home-life – I spoke too much, intolerant of the faults of others, instead of keeping friendly silence.
⦁ Do the work within to help myself overcome my problems.
⦁ I am here to give help in the right and constructive way.
⦁ Quarrels destroy relationship.
⦁ Courtesy and respect grows relationship.
⦁ Things don’t work out as I wanted, and what I wanted also changes, which my contentment is not reliant on.
⦁ My situation calls for patience, acceptance and resolution.
⦁ Detach myself emotionally from problems.
⦁ Do not take things personally.
⦁ Use the opportunity to say something helpful at the right moment.
⦁ Create a bond of respect for individuality.
⦁ Be serious, clear headed, using my reasonableness and rational judgement, balance.
⦁ Be aware of others and conscious of their reactions, the more I give the more I get.
⦁ Emotional sickness is anxiety, apprehensiveness, doubt, generating trouble for self.
⦁ Speak wisdom and what is acceptable is right.
⦁ I am not bound to shoulder the addicts responsibilities.
⦁ I practise not to take what others says personally.
⦁ If I urge advise of what I would do, and that advice is taken, I am responsible for the results.
⦁ I don’t know what course of action is right for anyone but I can offer comfort and compassion and the good example of the life I am trying to build.
⦁ I enjoy life, see the good, hear the good and refrain from negative tongue.
⦁ The process has helped me to transform from a desperate, unhappy person into a joyous useful person with a changed perspective of how I see my life and reduced my problems to manageable sizes.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of Spirit as we understand Spirit in form.
⦁ Live in the moment and accept my mind, emotions and body and recreating with the care of Spirit.
⦁ Create own inner and outer space, to live in and work with own, to care for all loved ones.
⦁ Manage own time, life, mind, emotions and body and do what feels, looks and sounds good.
⦁ There can be no progress without humility which prepares us for the realisation of the will of Spirit, which shows us the benefits we gain from doing away with self-will. We finally understand how self-will has contributed to our distress.
⦁ Humility strengthens us to take spiritual action in solving our problems.
⦁ The way we approach our problems is important, however they may have overwhelmed us before we learned how to deal with them.
⦁ With the help of spirit we accept what we can change with courage, composure and good humour.
⦁ We leap from hopelessness to hope and confidence.
⦁ We give up despair and know it is up to us to make hope work in our lives.
⦁ Guard against impatience, lapses and feeling sorry for self, resenting the words and actions of others.
⦁ Do not permit myself into visiting the past.
⦁ Start each day with thoughts of gratitude that so much has been accomplished.
⦁ Know Spirit will provide light of wisdom in my striving for serenity.
⦁ Apply the Serenity prayer to solve my problems.
⦁ Be confident that each day holds something good for me.
⦁ Focus on principles not on personalities.
⦁ The goodwill is always there to help us.
⦁ Surrender to Spirit who is more powerful and wiser to bring order into our lives.
⦁ Spirit is a steady influence and constant guide to right actions.
⦁ Accept the rich comfort to me in this way of life.
⦁ The symptom of the sickness of anger causes one to judge and condemn someone else.
⦁ I am sick when I allow anger to destroy my peace and poise of mind.
⦁ Anger cannot express love.
⦁ I pray for quietness to gain my own emotional stability.
⦁ My job is to do something about my own faults in the mess our life has become.
⦁ I admit that my own faults contributed to the mess in our life.
⦁ I accept the fact that I need help and the firmness of action to take the help.
⦁ I ask Spirit to help me live a better way of life.
⦁ I am not alone.
⦁ I have learned to comfort and encourage others and that gives me a fresh approach to my own difficulties.
⦁ I can help others and they can help me.
⦁ It is not my function to control another person, however close to me.
⦁ I will stop to be a crutch, will lead no other life other than my own.
⦁ My making assumptions and a lack of confidence can do untold damage.
⦁ Do not fall into the trap of anticipating troubles.
⦁ If troubles should come, let me meet it with balance and love.
⦁ If we ask for Life to help, we must do so with confidence.
⦁ It is fruitless to take back the problem our powerlessness forced us to turn over to Spirit.
⦁ Accept Life's help and set myself free from power of self-will and pride which I have built.
⦁ I will accept freedom.
⦁ Ask Life to help me from exaggerating my problems by harping on them all the time.
⦁ Practice acceptance that there are things I cannot change.
⦁ I work on things that can be changed.
⦁ Surrender by accepting the will of Life and letting go self-will.
⦁ Life helps me to accept responsibility for finding a better way of life through surrender to You and Your will.
⦁ Be nourished by friendship and concern of those interested in doing the work and from discussions in depth of Life principles and traditions and quotes.
⦁ Discover how my attitude helps me to create my problems or aggravate it.
⦁ Be honest with myself before I can know the truth that is outside of myself.
⦁ Make myself true inside by manifesting the truth as we see it.
⦁ Make every day good, use time to do the things that need doing and have little time for enjoyment and reflection.
⦁ I will do useful and satisfying activities to give me the spice of life in variety. This keeps my mind off my problems which is the easiest way to solve them.
⦁ Live, work and travel with freedom under Spirit.
⦁ Do not use people as a sounding board to review my miseries but as a way to learn and detach myself from miseries.
⦁ Learn by reading and listening and living by principles.
⦁ The more I merge myself in the Higher Power teachings the more I get from them and the more I can help others.
⦁ Live one day at a time.
⦁ Do not allow myself to be swamped by the past or concern myself about tomorrow, I will focus on today.
⦁ Do not imagine troubles and I don’t know what the future may bring.
⦁ Be not the boss nor have the right to direct the lives of others.
⦁ When I am able to accept the help of Life, it makes me feel capable of doing anything I am called upon to do.
⦁ I am overcoming my fears and growing in comfort and new confidence.
⦁ Silence is a blessing to take stock of myself and meditate on how I can improve, not to bottle up anger but to use the quiet to heal.
⦁ I have the power to change my life choices, to do something about the facts of the situation.
⦁ I do not accept misery or uncertainty but am willing to do something about or let go and let God.
⦁ I am seeking help and enlightenment by improving myself and my way of life without looking for flaws in others.
⦁ I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant and kindness from the unkind and gratitude for all teachers
⦁ I share my experiences by applying the teachings and share in the courage and hope to face daily challenges to grow confidence in a better life ahead for us.
⦁ I share the good things.
⦁ I hope to inspire others, be led out of confusion into serenity, I am not alone in freeing myself from what troubles me and do not need to cling to my martyrdom.
⦁ I can pose a problem that we can all improve our understanding.
⦁ Life is my refuge and strength, a very Presence and help in trouble
⦁ We are being good to ourselves when we help others and when we fill our lives with pleasant and rewarding activities.
⦁ I hope to fulfil my responsibility to myself then can I help others.
⦁ The contented person has no need to look for flaws in others.
⦁ One critical thought leads to another.
⦁ Criticizing has the effect of pushing love out of the picture, leading people not to respond to us as we would like them to.
⦁ I practice seeing people's good and pleasant qualities.
⦁ I can make my battered world into a shining one and ask Spirit in making my little victories into bigger ones by living daily to the best of my ability and giving my best to everyone I encounter.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
⦁ Stop Copying others to be liked by others, be own personality and expression.
⦁ Stop Fixing others problems fix own problems.
⦁ Stop Giving in to disrespect from others.
⦁ Stop using high pitch stressed tone.
⦁ Stop justifying actions.
⦁ Stop trying to fixing others unhappiness.
⦁ Stop asking others questions.
⦁ Stop offering solutions where not ask for.
⦁ Stop changing what others have done.
⦁ Stop pointing out problems.
⦁ Stop analyzing.
⦁ Stop getting involved in the private affairs of others.
⦁ Stop wanting.
⦁ Stop showing fear.
⦁ Stop criticizing.
⦁ Stop blaming.
⦁ Stop feeling guilty.
⦁ Stop feeling oversensitive.
⦁ Stop insensitive reactions.
⦁ Stop feeling sorry for own self because people do not respond to us as we would like them to.
⦁ Stop worrying.
⦁ Stop self-centredness.
⦁ Stop trying to change a person nor can I change a person.
⦁ Stop exaggerating crisis' out of proportion to their importance.
⦁ Stop self-pity, resentment and fears.
⦁ Stop headlong speech.
⦁ Stop despair.
⦁ Stop frustration.
⦁ Stop resentment.
⦁ Stop self-pity.
⦁ Stop craving punishment.
⦁ Stop being deprived of the good things in life.
⦁ Stop covering up for others.
⦁ Stop making excuses for others.
⦁ Stop taking on the responsibility of others.
⦁ Stop creating a crisis to bring people to their senses – let go and let God – let the crisis happen.
⦁ Stop trying to control another.
⦁ Stop forcing clear thinking by self will.
⦁ Stop interference and protection of another.
⦁ Stop suffering from the actions of others and rejecting help for myself.
⦁ Stop absence of faith and believing all solutions depend upon us.
⦁ Stop feeling alone and helpless and thinking solutions are depended on self only.
⦁ Stop fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities.
⦁ Stop dreading tomorrow.
⦁ Stop self-justification and self-righteousness.
⦁ Stop delusion that I am better than others.
⦁ Stop being wise for others.
⦁ Stop sarcasm.
⦁ Stop judging others by my standards.
⦁ Stop seeing others clearly and not accepting others and not looking at myself clearly and accepting myself.
⦁ Stop trying to change others and avoiding to change myself.
⦁ Stop my restlessness, and feelings of inadequacy.
⦁ Stop accepting responsibility for our troubles rooted in my own imperfections.
⦁ Stop despair from self-pity.
⦁ Stop being a crutch for others.
⦁ Be courteous, use manners.
⦁ Use soft, firm tone.
⦁ Do as others ask where possible.
⦁ Check what others want, which is your will.
⦁ Allow the Name to bring it.
⦁ Allow others to meet their own needs and ask for help if they need help.
⦁ Allow everything to be perfect as it is and recreate what I want.
⦁ Be warm and willing.
⦁ Be sensitive to Reality.
⦁ be sensitive to feelings of own and others.
⦁ Listen to others presence and message by words.
⦁ Connect to others.
⦁ Be open, vulnerable and honest about feelings, what is needed.
⦁ Allow freedom to express needs, opinions and ideas, respectfully.
⦁ Create relationships for Self development.
⦁ Listen respectfully and expect the same from others.
⦁ Overcome making others feel guilty and not good enough by avoiding bringing to their attention what is being done for them.
⦁ The contented, well-adjusted, has no need to find flaws in other.
⦁ I can only change my outlook on life.
⦁ See peoples good and pleasant qualities.
⦁ Ask for the help of Spirit to make my victories bigger for myself and everyone I encounter.
⦁ Accept each day whatever it brings.
⦁ Grow to use poise, wisdom and humour with the help of Spirit not to turn little troubles into big ones.
⦁ Get away from myself, thinking about my grievances and finding faults with others, which is making me confused to accept new ideas.
⦁ Be willing to lead another to bring to courage and confidence that exists within every one of us.
⦁ Turn a deaf ear to things that destroy inner peace and displease and create argument.
⦁ Be willing to accept the difficult discipline of the spiritual masters teachings and live with a guide who makes life worthwhile.
⦁ Go to the masters meetings with an open mind, ready to receive and accept new ideas.
⦁ For my own good, apply these ideas to my own life.
⦁ Everyone at the masters meetings has something important to give to the listener and the sharer and I am willing to listen and share.
⦁ Go to the masters meetings for the instructions and emotional support and receive help from others who understand my distress.
⦁ Ask for their guidance as to my own shortcomings which I find difficult to recognise.
⦁ Do need to accept everything everyone says but the thinking process it evokes in me sets me on the right path.
⦁ Become a helpful messenger to others.
⦁ Be willing to search the good in what they say to me.
⦁ Allow others to take responsibility for their own mistakes without interference.
⦁ Devote myself to overcoming my flaws of character and controlling my impulses words and actions.
⦁ No time to concern myself with re-modelling another.
⦁ Everyone's freedom depends upon their own self and Spirit not me.
⦁ Search for the good in the bad and concentrate on it.
⦁ Search for interesting activities.
⦁ Meet obligations to family and friends.
⦁ Make myself the kind of person I enjoy living with.
⦁ Create joy for myself by watching myself grow.
⦁ Examine my motives.
⦁ Examine why I do what I do and what I say and recognise the person I really am.
⦁ Give myself constructive ideas for improving what I don’t like about myself.
⦁ Admit my faults to myself, Spirit and another person, which gives me a glimpse into the wonderful person I could be.
⦁ Head towards being at peace with myself permanently, which is my final goal, embracing all.
⦁ Put all actions and comfort in faith.
⦁ Heal past regrets, do acts of kindness, see missed opportunities from wiser decisions from now on.
⦁ Face difficulties instead of hiding them in the mind.
⦁ Correct my problems by changing myself.
⦁ Be completely honest to self-understanding with the help of Spirit – meditate.
⦁ Channel energy into making a constructive decision.
⦁ Pause and think before I speak or make a decision.
⦁ Give a soft answer to turn away anger and show appreciation to stir up love and respect.
⦁ Realise I am not all wise and powerful only Spirit is and on Spirit I must rely.
⦁ All God’s children in creation are important.
⦁ Relaxing mind saves wear and tear on emotions and preserves own dignity.
⦁ Solve problems by sharing experiences, strengths and hopes with others.
⦁ Don't demand too much from myself or others.
⦁ Be wise for self.
⦁ Love in a shared life.
⦁ Replace hate with love and nurture it with hope and faith in the goodness of another human.
⦁ Appreciate the good and loveable qualities of another.
⦁ Be kind and gentle to others, blended with firmness and find agreement with others.
⦁ Acknowledge I am wrong and admit to mistakes.
⦁ Improve my own standards and live up to them myself.
⦁ Take full responsibility for my own fate and everything that has happened to me in life.
⦁ Search for my own shortcomings only and be honest with myself to experience serenity.
⦁ Unite myself with the Power of Spirit and guidance.
⦁ Acknowledge own faults and good qualities with courage and honesty.
⦁ Self-deception kept me from growing into the kind of person I want to be.
⦁ Practice self-respect, faith and loyalty.
⦁ Find strength in quietness and in confidence.
⦁ Forgive myself for judging.
⦁ Accept others as they are.
⦁ Have little but give it all.
⦁ Believer in life and abundance in life.
⦁ My hands are not empty.
5. Admitted to Spirit, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
⦁ Taking life, love, peace, happiness, health and all blessings for granted.
⦁ Not practising helpfulness where needed.
⦁ Yielding to others opinions, ideas and perspectives.
⦁ Allowing others to get away with going over my boundaries.
⦁ Going against other people boundaries and allowing others to do the same.
⦁ Complaining about others and making them feel guilty.
⦁ Gritting my teeth to bear a situation instead of talking about it to resolve it.
⦁ Yielding to others.
⦁ My relationship to Spirit shows me that humility is essential for faith and to live and let others live.
⦁ My Faith helps me to overcome my faults.
⦁ If I had been more dependent on Spirit I would have been more wise and receptive to guidance from Spirit.
⦁ I have experienced personal helplessness in my efforts to find peace and security.
⦁ When dreadful things happen I must think of what I would be doing if it had not happened and then do that.
⦁ I must distil sorrow into inspiration for others.
⦁ Resentment of disappointments, rebelling against misfortunes teach me that my punishments are self-inflicted, my sufferings are the consequences of my own attitudes, actions and neglects.
⦁ I am to find new perspectives and solutions.
⦁ When troubled by negative thoughts how great a need I have for faith in Spirit.
⦁ I need to be more grateful than I realise of all the things in my life that I could enjoy and appreciate.
⦁ I am distracted by my problems.
⦁ I am preoccupied with my complaints.
⦁ I need to surrender to Spirit and the goodness in life.
⦁ I let myself be controlled by negative thinking which I stray unless I guide them into positive paths.
⦁ I mediate on problems, what I lack and what is hurting me instead of what is good in my life, my blessings and what I can do to be helpful and bring a smile.
⦁ I do moan and groan without remembering the Giver is Spirit and everything is for my benefit.
⦁ I am to concentrate on my own improvement and not discuss the actions and faults of others.
⦁ I am to overcome the tension and worry of my own situation.
⦁ I am to manage own feelings of guilt, hopelessness and anger.
⦁ I am not responsible for others.
⦁ I deal better with problems when not weighed down by negative thoughts.
⦁ My vain imagination vanishes when all negative thoughts and unnecessary cares vanish.
⦁ My purpose is to help those living in an unmanageable addictive situation.
⦁ I share experience, strength and hope with each other.
⦁ I am not to and should not share another’s burdens, whether financial or emotional.
⦁ I am sometimes over eager in warmth and friendly desire to help and assume someone else’s responsibilities, providing necessities and lending money or advising irretrievable actions. This is not helping.
⦁ I should let people think through their own problems so they have the opportunity to develop experience and strength from working things out for themselves.
⦁ I need and want the inspiration and emotional support from our group, but I will not lean on anyone for help.
⦁ I want to face my own problems and not side step them.
⦁ Likewise I will not interfere in the life on anyone else even though I am motivated only by a desire to help.
⦁ I neglect my own duty by taking on the duty of another and deprive them from finding their own solutions.
⦁ I am offered freedom and it costs my own self will and domination which causes despair.
⦁ Think deeply about own words and actions that are hostile to forgiveness from lack of cooperation to quiet acceptance.
⦁ I am to achieve freedom by releasing that which troubles and defeats me.
⦁ My hostility, self-deception and self-pity built a wall around me and my reality
⦁ My suffering is real and self-inflicted.
⦁ I was stubborn to refuse to let go of my control over another, in my case the addict.
⦁ I can honestly say that I am at fault and my peace of mind depends on overcoming my negative attitudes for which I must live honestly daily.
⦁ I blame little of myself and the suffering I cause others.
⦁ I make trouble for myself when I interfere in the actions of others, trying to find out where they are, what they have been doing, suspicion, making the situation worse instead of improving it.
⦁ What I am meant to know will come to my knowledge without any action when I let go and let Spirit.
⦁ I am to trust that when an emergency happens I will be better equipped to meet the emergency.
⦁ My discontentment and disturbance is from lack of quietness and allowing others quietness.
⦁ My determination to do something about everything I see is my obstacle in achieving serenity.
⦁ My tensing up and guarding myself for a battle can defeat my purpose to lead a better life for myself.
⦁ I am to relax on all the details of my sufferings and allow solutions to unfold by themselves.
⦁ Trying to run things my own way is a delusion.
⦁ I am to let things pass and not remember it.
⦁ I am not to make clear thinking of others my business/problem.
⦁ The work is with myself and the results make others wanting clear thinking and getting it.
⦁ I will stop thinking of what I can do to help others to improve their life but rather what I can to do help myself and improve my life.
⦁ I will think what I can do to restore myself to full social responsibility, profitably, environmentally, ethically, socially and economically in the world.
⦁ I only can make efforts to improving one life which I do have power, my own.
⦁ I forget I am nobody, and must stop trying to be somebody.
⦁ I am not to look for approval and praise from others.
⦁ I am to be confident, and know I am adequate and worthy of respect.
⦁ I am to remember my human rights as an individual.
⦁ I am to restore my self-esteem by seeing myself as I really am, to sort out my good qualities as a foundation to build stronger better personalities.
⦁ I am to grow a better picture of myself, like and respect myself as a person, so I can grow.
⦁ I am to accept reality consciously not unconsciously.
⦁ I accept that I cannot conquer reality but in the unconscious I believe I can and this is not acceptance, the struggle to achieve control continues.
⦁ When I accept the temporary yielding and tensions and the ability to accept in the unconscious as surrender, there is no more battle, there is relaxation and freedom from stress and conflict.
⦁ When I completely surrender that I have no power to change another, I can create a new life for me.
⦁ When I stop playing Spirit things start to happen because Spirit then steps in and corrects what seemed hopeless.
⦁ Acceptance is not rejecting or resisting, it is going along with, to cooperate and be receptive.
⦁ I cannot read another mind, or what is going on inside another human being – I cannot play Spirit to our troubled mates.
⦁ I am to remember that everyone must be respected for his own individuality no matter how battered it appears.
⦁ No one can think the way I think or do as I do, I am not you.
⦁ I am encouraged to stay in touch with my group between meetings.
⦁ When I am depressed or apprehensive I am to talk things over.
⦁ I am to be clear what I am looking for.
⦁ Am I looking for comfort and straightening out of my thinking?
⦁ Do I expect advice on a serious personal crisis?
⦁ I cannot give another the responsibility of telling me what to do.
⦁ No one can make my decisions for me, I will call on Spirit for guidance.
⦁ I will meditate and keep my mind open for answers.
⦁ When I feel I must take a radical and permanent step, shouldn’t I make sure I am not motivated by resentment, hatred and anger?
⦁ I will remind myself that once having taken a radical step there is no turning back. I should try again with the help of Spirit and the programme to improve my own capacity for dealing with my problem.
⦁ Whatever is facing me I know that Spirit has given me the power to set my world in order.
⦁ I will not let go of the programme that lead me to freedom and God/Spirit realisation.
⦁ I will not face my problems without the help of the programme.
⦁ I will not set myself up for a big multi member operation for supporters to bow out of.
⦁ I am not a powerhouse.
⦁ The What if …looking at fears and possible troubles ahead, projecting into the future is a closed book.
⦁ The more we look for disaster the more we invite it.
⦁ Because the past was unhappy is no reason the future will be.
⦁ Only Spirit knows and I do well to trust in a loving Spirit of wisdom and root out all thoughts that things cannot get better.
⦁ It is health to the mind and body to look to the future with confidence.
⦁ Positive attitude prepares for the future.
⦁ I will not give reality to trouble that will never come.
⦁ When I read the teachings again it reveals new spiritual ideas.
⦁ I am to dig into my consciousness and unearth for us the wonderful potential for good in all our relationship with life.
⦁ I am committed to meditating on the actions/teachings daily for half an hour and giving two and half hours to listening to the inner voice of Spirit.
⦁ I am to get myself one sponsor and stop confusing myself by trying to coordinate too many opinions.
⦁ I am to go slow, let go and keep it simple.
⦁ I will not try to manage or control what is clearly beyond my powers.
⦁ I will dedicate myself to managing my own life and only mine.
⦁ There is only one world you can improve and that is yourself.
⦁ My own behaviour is not sane.
⦁ I rely on Spirit to open my eyes and ears to solutions to restore me to peace and order.
⦁ Comfort and peaceful heart are the rewards of those who rely on Spirit for help.
⦁ Self-deception can only damage me, in giving me a unclear, unreal picture of the person I really am.
⦁ When I have given myself the answers, I will have given myself the gift of weeding out my own shortcomings that block my search for serenity.
⦁ I can prepare myself to make decisions only by becoming aware of the kind of person I am, by getting to know myself.
⦁ I know I must acknowledge what is wrong but I must also recognise my good qualities which are the foundation of my growth and evaluate my real motives and intentions.
⦁ When I fall into old habits of self-pity, criticising, my relapse is just as involuntary and forgivable as that of others who are addicted to guilt and irresponsible behaviour.
⦁ I am to get perspective on my troubles rather than pinpointing my thoughts on my troubles.
⦁ I am to meet the challenges of every day.
⦁ Things cannot always go the way I want them to.
⦁ Accept disappointment quietly.
⦁ Grow the gift of silence when speaking may aggravate the difficulty.
⦁ Resentment leads to retaliation.
⦁ We feel justified for paying others back for what they have done to us.
⦁ If I cannot fathom intentions or motivation how can I punish others?
⦁ Perhaps the hurt was not intended. Perhaps I was oversensitive.
⦁ Most of us have suffered from unkindness.
⦁ The addicts backlash is their own guilt and self-hatred.
⦁ Any retaliation for an injury can only react unhappily on me.
⦁ In nature there are no rewards or punishments only consequences.
⦁ Silence filled with unpleasantness and anger screams louder than words. It hurts us. It gives others reason to criticize and it does nothing to communicate our love and compassion.
⦁ Looking for distractions to time fill, that their first duties are neglected, duties to the family and the home, including the addict.
⦁ Detach from the problem, can truly promote our spiritual growth and lessen the unrecognized personal guilt we carry around within us.
⦁ Detachment from others frees our self from a sense of injury that is a blend of resentment and self-pity.
⦁ When I detach myself from my problems, they often resolve themselves.
⦁ Our group meetings gave me a new way of looking at things.
⦁ I will concentrate on things that are my concern and make sure which are really mine.
⦁ I will keep my hands off the business of others.
⦁ I will not interfere in the lives of others activities, nor assume their responsibility, nor shield them from the consequences of what they do.
⦁ When I am offended by the faults of others, I will turn to my own failings and by attending to them I will forget my anger and learn to live wisely.
⦁ I will not plan pitfalls for others or do anything to punish for the grounds that is for their own good and that is not my right; we would need the insight of Spirit to know what drives the other to his frantic escape from reality.
⦁ Others are heading towards their own crisis or self-created results every time they give control over to another or substance.
⦁ My role is to allow the inevitable consequences to overtake the unhappy addict as they surely will, if we keep ourselves from doing any action to prevent it.
⦁ Scheming to outwit the addicted person is doomed to failure.
⦁ I examine my own motives to be sure I am not playing self-defeating games.
⦁ I will have to dig deep for this kind of honesty, but it is worth it.
6. Were entirely ready to have Spirit remove all these defects of character
⦁ Open to death or change from self-will to God's will.
⦁ Let go and let God, easy does it, keep it simple, one step at a time.
⦁ Willing to do the inner and outer work.
⦁ Take the inner work seriously and committed to daily meditation.
⦁ Focus on Spirit, the inner sound and lightness of being.
⦁ Focus on serving myself and meeting my own needs by first meeting the needs of others where Spirit resides.
⦁ By helping others we help ourself and it does so much good.
⦁ The teachings of actions are a gift I want to share and I will not deprive myself of helping those who need it.
⦁ What I can give is never as much as I get from the giving.
⦁ I will not yield to resentment when I feel wronged by someone. It is all for my benefit.
⦁ No self-discipline can heal me of resentment.
⦁ Emotions are damaging when I do not understand the cause of the emotions.
⦁ I analyse the emotions and ask what caused the emotion that made me react the way I did.
⦁ I will reason it away by understanding the cause and practising appreciation.
⦁ Resentment is so consuming and we cannot function with bad habits if we hope to improve our lives.
⦁ To have peace of mind I must not depend on conditions outside of myself.
⦁ An honest search for my motive shows I enjoy martyrdom or that I fear subconsciously, that I deserve it.
⦁ When I find the causes of my distress and frustrations I can establish corrective habits to overcome them.
⦁ A programme of self-recognition and self-change is easy to read and hard to do.
⦁ My failures come from trying to do too much too fast, from expecting results overnight.
⦁ I will search for one fault, one bad habit and work to eliminate that.
⦁ I will keep changing myself for the better.
⦁ Meditation has an influence on my life, it answers all my questions and calls for reflection.
⦁ I do not know what is best for me neither do I know what I want.
⦁ I leave it all up to sacred Spirit, the inner voice, God, the good, comforting and happy feelings.
⦁ My meditation is for receiving guidance, for an open mind to receive it, for courage and confidence to use it, to forgive myself.
⦁ No situation is hopeless, I must keep cheerful when I have cause for despair I am to resist the impulse to complain.
⦁ I must not take over the responsibility of others as I prevent the growth of the other.
⦁ It takes courage not to appear courageous.
⦁ I must not look for sympathy as a result of self-pitying ego as it weakens my character and destroys my self-esteem.
⦁ I will not lack the courage and confidence to do the things that will improve my situation.
⦁ I will not be afraid to let go of another person’s obligations.
⦁ I will stop doing what will stop me from improvement.
⦁ I will turn to Spirit for guidance and all the strength and confidence I need.
⦁ I was saved from making mistakes by the teachings introduced to me.
⦁ The teachings provided the strength to meet the situation with poise, serenity and confidence in the outcome.
⦁ I do the work daily for myself with constant reading, meditation and asking for guidance and giving of myself to help others.
⦁ My mind and heart remains open to see and hear so I can learn and develop myself.
⦁ I am determined to be courteous meaning to have warm concerns for other persons comfort and well-being by explaining and reassuring.
⦁ I am committed to courteously overcome resentment and melt misunderstandings away.
⦁ I will treat all equally importantly, respect all and make them feel secure and loved.
⦁ My getting depends on my giving, to be of service to others.
⦁ I give as my good spirit directs me, to give my time to others, jump in to help, setting up and clean, provide supplies, giving comfort and reassurance to others in trouble who attend or host meetings.
⦁ I get rid of my impulse to justify my actions, caused by guilt, that I cannot release it to understand my motives.
⦁ I stop to search out why I had the impulse to justify or be emotional.
⦁ I examine my real reasons for every decision that involves me taking action, and try to correct myself deception.
⦁ I must avoid making excuses and reason why I do things and accept others as they are.
⦁ As a newcomer to the programme I told my sponsor about the person I am in conflict with to realise it is only one side of the story and that the other also has complaints and is confused, tense, angry and frustrated and deprived of a reasonable understanding.
⦁ The teachings brings me to compassion and understanding of the other persons deep guilt and unhappiness.
⦁ I realise I am to share the responsibility of the troubles of those around me.
⦁ I am determined to only look to myself to improve my life and remain in agreement with others who are God's children who God is in charge of, like God is in charge of me.
⦁ I act on God's inspiration and guidance.
⦁ I will let go and let God, meaning, I will not be defeated and apathetic, by not turning my back on my problems, but will ask for God for help and expect help.
⦁ I am willing to face my problems because I want to face my life and enjoy it for myself and with others.
⦁ I will guard against defeatism where there is a loving God who will help me with all I need.
⦁ I will use humour to lighten up the heavy seriousness which soothes out the rough spots in communication.
⦁ If I look closely there is an element of fantasy, fun or even a relieving silliness which when my mood makes it look black, I could spark it with a dash of rosy pink.
⦁ I try look for the things that can add gaiety to my life to offset the solemn or troubling ones.
⦁ I create humour to detach my mind from daily difficulties.
⦁ Its anxiety that bars us from the lighter brighter things of life, humour defuses it.
⦁ I will wait patiently for a problem to work itself out through a natural process than constantly to impose my own misguided control into it.
⦁ I will let those I love be perfectly themselves and not try changing them to fit my own image, otherwise I love only the reflection of myself I find in them.
⦁ We love as we accept each other as we are.
⦁ I will not cling to my burdens.
⦁ I live in a state of serenity to overcome the undercurrent of guilt from the past errors.
⦁ Serenity gives me insight into myself and my value.
⦁ I am guided by example to stop my addiction, but I can only stop the compulsion with strong desire.
⦁ I surrender the reins of control over other human beings.
⦁ The Power can restore me to sanity, to put my feet on the ground, show me the way to renew my life which might be too troubled to think straight.
⦁ I surrender to faith in something that is beyond my control.
⦁ I will surrender my will to the wisdom of God in my effort to find a sane and reasonable way of life.
⦁ The Power regulates our events.
⦁ Painful events are not necessary.
⦁ A believing love will save us from a load of cares.
⦁ I will surrender my will to God and not force my will to my problems, as no solutions can be found in this way.
⦁ I place myself in the Power and wisdom that flows into my life and I am impelled to truth and perfect contentment.
⦁ We are to see ourselves as we really are, our characters, motives, attitudes and actions.
⦁ Self-justification may tempt me to explain each fault as I uncover it.
⦁ I will not blame others for what I do on the ground that I am compelled to react to their wrong doings.
⦁ I will be honest and humble which is superior than knowledge.
⦁ My perfection is a long way off, but improvement can be made to happen everyday by working on one or two shortcomings at a time for as long as it takes to satisfy me that I have made real progress erasing them.
⦁ My flaws make trouble for me, so I must face them and correct them to become the person I want to be.
⦁ I admit these shortcomings to God, to myself in a private confession and then to another trusted person.
⦁ I guard against self-justification and self-righteousness, and do not make excuses for myself or blame my troubles on others.
⦁ I make myself ready to let go of negative habits of thought that have been reflected in the happenings of my life, and God helps me to manage the kind of thinking and doing that brings me serenity and happiness.
⦁ I must keep reminding myself to accept the help of Spirit in all I am trying to do.
⦁ I will make a list of all persons I have harmed and become willing to make amends to them all.
⦁ I will admit my errors so I can clear my inner consciousness of guilt.
⦁ I will ask myself who have I injured, knowing my hostile reaction to those who have gone against me.
⦁ I will ask myself if I have filled the minds of those of others in my life with thoughts against another.
⦁ Have I communicated my anxiety and resentment to others?
⦁ Have I taken my frustration out on others?
⦁ I am willing to be freed from self-hate, opening the door to peace of mind I never want to lose.
⦁ A change of attitude can make up for past unkindness.
⦁ If I have taken from anyone any material thing, I will acknowledge the debt and pay it in full.
⦁ Rifts between me and others can be healed by swallowing my pride and making the first gestures towards reconciliation.
⦁ Love and patience can make amends for past injuries, they restore me to sanity and my life to serenity.
⦁ I continue to make a personal inventory of those I have harmed and when I am wrong I promptly admit it, to avoid a backlog of guilt to worry about, and I keep order as I go along.
⦁ I live One day at a time, not expecting to achieve perfection.
⦁ I observe my progress and enjoy deep satisfactions it can bring me.
⦁ I have little obvious effect on my outward circumstances, at first keep myself receptive to solutions will guide me to them.
⦁ I look to myself where all the answers are found.
⦁ I am searching through meditation and contemplation on my conscious contact with Spirit and contemplate on the knowledge and will of Spirit to carry it out, it is the way to receive guidance for our decisions.
⦁ I let Spirit who guides me with strength, make my perfect way.
⦁ After a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, I try to carry this message to others and to practise these principles in all my affairs.
⦁ The spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless, I have learned certain truths which I am now able to carry to others in order to help them.
⦁ I will keep myself ready for the spiritual awakening which will come to me when I have surrendered my will to the will of Spirit.
⦁ It will shed new light on many things.
⦁ It will give me the ability to make my judgements and decisions on the spiritual level where I will be governed by the goodness and wisdom of Spirit.
⦁ Spirit leads me out of sleep, out of darkness and leads me into the Spiritual way.
⦁ I shield my children from violence.
⦁ I don’t over protect my children.
⦁ I don’t influence them against others
⦁ I avoid scenes by not allowing my frustrations to erupt into anger.
⦁ I try hard to be consistent and fair to them.
⦁ I consider my kids first.
⦁ My attitude is the key to a successful family relationship and their normal growing up.
⦁ My children respond to respect well.
⦁ Be good to Self means not relishing suffering, re-living and re telling self-pity story, and wean away martyrdom until the joys of serenity and contentment dawn on them.
⦁ I will not nurse my complaints, resent my lot in life, seek escapism nor blame anyone.
⦁ Letting go of a problem is the lovely adventure of shrugging off hurts.
⦁ My contentment is not worth giving up to hurt, feeling sorry for myself, resentment and worry.
⦁ I have no need to carry around with me emotional unpleasantness.
⦁ Self-deception is when I tell the details of suffering, react to happenings, make judgements and suppress facts that might reflect badly on others, and exaggerates others faults.
⦁ I am willing to get away from such deception and create a state of mind to see it rationally until there is a change of attitude.
⦁ I will guard advising anyone to take a radical step they are not emotionally ready to take.
⦁ Let go and let God is a rule to follow when asked to give advice in a troubled domestic situation.
⦁ The time I spend in reviewing the past, moaning over past mistakes and failures is time lost.
⦁ The past has no importance, except as experience in making today fruitful.
⦁ Regrets and self-condemnation for what we did or left undone destroy self-esteem.
⦁ I will live through this one day only and not tackle all my problems at once.
⦁ Those of the past need not concern me today and future ones can be faced as they arise.
7. Humbly asked Spirit to remove our shortcomings.
⦁ Think before I speak.
⦁ Stop the train of speech.
⦁ Discuss what it appropriate to the group.
⦁ Invite others by agreement.
⦁ Set boundaries.
⦁ Manage the carriage, driver, reins and horses.
⦁ Remind us when we do not make your heart happy.
⦁ Forgive us for going against others and forgive others for going against us.
⦁ Lead us not into negativity, temptation, wrong action.
⦁ Remind us that nothing happens without your will.
⦁ Remove arrogance and practise open mindedness.
⦁ Remove glamour and practise being.
⦁ Remove bossiness and practise leadership.
⦁ Remove control and manipulation and practise surrender and agreement.
⦁ Remove sadness and replace with sympathy.
⦁ Remove jealousy and practise encouragement.
⦁ Remove rejection and replace with acceptance.
⦁ Remove conflict and replace with support and cooperation.
⦁ Remove Ego/pride and replace with humility and appropriateness.
⦁ Remove attachment to impermanent happiness and replace with attachment to permanent happiness.
⦁ Remove greed and replace with contentment.
⦁ Remove anger and hatred and replace with forgiveness and love.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and become willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Seed through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with Spirit as we understand Spirit, praying only for knowledge of the will of Spirit for us and the Spirit to carry that out.
To become reliant on Self/Spirit in form, Love Self, Trust Self, Befriend Self only
To give to Spirit my business and let Spirit manifest business to earn own income.
To find someone in a similar business to learn to manage.
To achieve inner goal of Self Actualization and God Realization.
To be grounded and live out realisations.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these actions and teachings, we committ to carry this message to others, and to practise these principles in all our interactions.
⦁ Continue to read the Self-help books
⦁ Live by example
⦁ Communicate to others the message when it is appropriate
⦁ Attend and host meetings, on positive creative and professional approach, to lead better lives.